Friday Night in Family Land


It’s Friday evening and I’m in Edmonds, Washington, just north of Seattle, with my Mom and my brother Joe’s family. I got to meet my nephew Zev for the first time! He’s about 7 months old and likes to have the dogs lick his face. (ick) I also haven’t seen my niece Sorelle since she was 4 months old and now she’s 2 years. She’s strong-willed–that’s the German side of the family. My nephew Gage is 6 and in kindergarten at St. Thomas More Catholic school. He got home from school around 3 p.m. and looks great in his navy blue uniform (that was appropriately covered with his light-up Spiderman hoodie). They had Mass today, he told me. There was a lot of  “get down and get up,” he said.

This trip was unexpected. At the end of August, our family got a bit of a scare when my sister-in-law found a fairly large tumor in her right lung. It was detected by her chiropractor during a routine spine X-ray. The first tests revealed a very grim diagnosis. But subsequent tests revealed kidney cancer that had metasticized to her lung from a cancerous kidney that she’d had removed when she was 15 years old. We went from a fairly dire prognosis to a very positive one. But in the meantime she has had to undergo major surgery to remove a portion of her lung, to be followed up by chemo therapy. She’s got a long road to recovery. But she’s very strong and very strong-willed with a great desire to get well. Every day she’s getting stronger and is giving all of her energy to healing.

In the meantime, an amazing circle of friends have kicked into gear to help take care of the kids and provide meals. None of our family live near Seattle, so we are staging our visits to stay with the kids and give the circle of friends a break.

Thanks be to God, in all likelihood my sister-in-law will recover from this scare and with several months of healing will be back to her old self.

Like so many Americans dealing with health issues, this one hangs by a thread. My brother works as a glazier in downtown Seattle (our joke is that he actually DID install windows for Microsoft because he worked on the new MS office building). Their health insurance depends completely on him. If he loses his job, they lose insurance. So, much to his despair, he hasn’t taken a day off from work during all of this family crisis. He’s left early at times–sometimes paid, sometimes not. But he couldn’t risk getting laid off. “If I show up, they’ll keep me on,” he says. Otherwise, probably not. Right now my sister-in-law has 100% coverage (because Zev is still under a year old). On December 31, her coverage drops to 80%. I’m not sure what they will do then. Like most couples raising three kids on one salary, there is absolutely nothing left at the end of the month.

A recent study found that 62 percent of all bankruptcies filed in 2007 were linked to medical expenses. Of those who filed for bankruptcy, nearly 80 percent had some kind of health insurance. I would guess, like most American families, we’ll all share our resources as best we can to cover the additional expenses. But this is the kind of situation that can and does financially devastate families for years.

Right now, Congress has gotten farther on health-care reform than it’s ever gotten in 50 years. The House bill is probably the one that will help the most people the most. Let’s just get it done–and deal with the tweaks later.

Now … back to playing “Indiana Jones” with Gage on his DS (whatever THAT is!)

2 responses to “Friday Night in Family Land”

  1. Your family membes are on my personal prayer list. Love, Lynn
    P.S. I expect to be in DC Halloween weekend.

  2. Hey Rose, I had no idea. If you need any help while you are here, (or any after that, for that matter) let me know. Sounds like they have lots of support, but no such thing as too much in this case. My prayers are with your family during this time. I’ll send you an email via facebook and include my cell phone number.


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